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Minsgame Monday – Week Three

MinsgameBOSSCan you believe we’re starting Week Three of the Minsgame already? No clue what I’m talking about? Then it’s best to click here for my introductory post on what it is and how to play. Even as we’ve jumped into double digit days, I haven’t felt any anxiety about getting rid of things.

I’ve even been, dare I say, excited.

Because what I’ve realized is this. For years, I’ve owned so many things I felt like I shouldn’t get rid of. Like, someone special gave me a gift, or — and this is the big one — I’ve hung onto something because it’s in good condition and it can’t hurt. Right?

Wrong.

I threw this key away on Day 15. I have no clue what it unlocks.

I threw this key away on Day 15. I have no clue what it unlocks.

I have so much stuff I’ve moved from place to place even though I can’t remember the last time I used it, wore it, thought about it, etc. What comes to mind first are the 3-hole punch, clipboard, and stapler I brought to work on Day 3. They’re in great shape, so of course I wasn’t going to throw them out, and come on – what if I needed one of them one day even though I haven’t actually used them in years?? Then I moved on to consider the clothes in my closet. I purged a healthy amount during my last move, but I still had several items that I’ve worn maybe once or twice a year. I finally realized I was wearing them out of obligation. I own them, therefore I should wear them. But if I have plenty of other clothing that I enjoy wearing so much more, why not just get rid of them?

I started on Day 11 when Sara, Heather and I took over the @thriftstylist Instagram account.

I donated 11 tops to Arc’s Value Village, and I’ll have plenty more clothing by the end of the month. Next, I tackled socks and underwear. I have a drawer designated for each, which is excessive, in my opinion. One total should be plenty, or I’ll at least narrow it down then designate them to two smaller drawers.

Now that I’ve started, I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Because what I’ve realized is that I needed this challenge to show me that it’s ok to give yourself permission to get rid of things. For whatever reason, I just felt like I needed to keep certain things when in reality, it’s 100% ok to release them back into the universe in some way or another.

If you feel like you’re not at the point of giving yourself this permission, then hear it from me first: I give you permission to get rid of things.

Feel better? I hope so!

This made me think about the fact that I’ve been working on this theory for a couple months in my blogging life. Since a big part of my blog is reviewing theater shows and other events, I always felt like I needed to be at everything all the time as much as possible day in day out every second twenty-four seven non-stop go go go to ALL OF THE THINGS. This is not a good mentality for someone with anxiety.

Day 13

Day 13

Maybe you’ve heard of a term lately that’s been going around called FOMO. It stands for “Fear of missing out.” I think I would consider myself a recovering FOMOer. One day, I reached a point where it was just too much, and I started saying “no.” Believe me, it’s hard, and it’s still something I’m working on but it also feels really good. There are so many amazing theater companies in the Twin Cities and I want to support them, but it’s just not practical to try and attend every show. As we get deeper into the Minsgame, I’m realizing I can spend even more time saying “no” as I better scrutinize what I attend. Because, much as I hate to admit it, the FOMO still rears its ugly head from time to time.

I want to see the “must-see show” of the week. Or the one that has a really cool special effect. Or the one starring one of the top local performers. This list could go on and on.

Getting rid of physical items has encouraged me to think about what matters and how I spend my time & money, and I want to apply this to my blogging life.

I want to see theater that makes me feel something. I want to see theater that makes me think. I want to see theater that I have a connection to in one way or another.

This will bring so much more meaning to my writing that I know will be invaluable, and this post from a show I saw on Friday was the perfect kick off. I can still promote shows and events, but I’m officially giving myself permission to not attend everything, or even to know about everything. I’ve put a lot of pressure on myself to be in the know because of this blog, and I’m working on accepting the fact that I don’t need to know everything. It’s greatly reduced my anxiety, partly due to the fact that I’m usually in bed by 10 every weeknight now so I’m actually getting a decent night’s sleep.

What’s something you feel like you need to give yourself permission to do?

Now click the links below to read about Heather, Sara and Anthony’s Minsgame adventures. If you feel like you want to join, it’s not too late! Don’t worry about catching up, just start today and go into the next month so you’ll circle back around to the first two weeks. Don’t forget to use #minsgameBOSS when posting on Instagram and twitter! We’d also love for you to join the Facebook group.

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17 thoughts on “Minsgame Monday – Week Three

  1. Beth

    I too have suffered from FOMO and have learned sometimes you need to say “No” and I feel much better for it too. I love the tie between that and decluttering – it really does kind of go together when you think about it! Great post as usual!

    1. Laura VanZandt Post author

      Thanks, Beth! Going into it, I wouldn’t have thought this would affect me like it has, and it’s great to see it resonate in a similar way with others. 🙂

  2. Bree

    I to have serious FOMO & anxiety, these 2 things don’t mix. Anxiety & purging don’t mix either which is why this month has been awesome. It’s so easy to just pick a certain amount of items, once I get started I could go until the house was empty but knowing that I only realistically have to pick a certain amount makes it so simple. Such a great post. Lately I’ve just been telling myself that whatever I’m missing out on will either still be there when I have the time or it wasn’t meant to be.

    1. Laura VanZandt Post author

      Yes, Bree!! Just saying, “I’m going to go through everything and get rid of stuff” is so overwhelming, but a set number each day makes it so much more manageable. And that’s a great way to look at it – some things aren’t meant to be. Life goes on, right? Especially being on twitter as much as we are, it’s easy to feel like we need to be involved in so much stuff. My lists have been so handy lately, allowing me to focus and give priority to a few select groups of people. I love it! 🙂

  3. Caroline

    This question really resonated with me: ‘What’s something you feel like you need to give yourself permission to do?’

    For me FOMO isn’t the issue, it’s more about the guilt I feel about being lazy/getting rest! I felt this yesterday because it was so nice out. Every time I was inside for an extended period of time, I felt this pang of guilt, like I needed to be outside the ENTIRE day to maximize the beautiful weather. But I was TIRED! And wanted to Netflix a little 🙂

    Seeing everyone’s beautiful fall pics on social media doesn’t help either 😉 Thanks for this post, Laura!

    1. Laura VanZandt Post author

      Ha, I know exactly what you mean Caroline. Saturday was a wonderful but lonnnnng day, so I walked to the gym on Sunday and called that good enough for outdoor time. Sometimes you just have to let Netflix take over, and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. 😉

  4. Valerie

    I love reading everyone’s stories. It’s about more than getting rid of items but reevaluating life and priorities, and living more mindfully. And the most important thing is someone’s free time, so good for you for addressing it!

    1. Laura VanZandt Post author

      Thanks, Valerie! I love reading people’s stories, too, and seeing how the game is affecting everyone. The positivity is incredible!!

  5. Sara

    “What’s something you feel like you need to give yourself permission to do?” A GREAT question for everyone to reflect on. And I like the change up–sometimes it really is giving yourself permission to NOT do something. 🙂

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  7. Heather @ Simply Save

    I can relate to the struggle between FOMO and being an introvert. I’m trying to get better at saying no without feeling like I have to provide an explanation. Thank you for the “permission” to let go of items…I think that part is more challenging than we realize!

    1. Laura VanZandt Post author

      I completely agree, Heather. It almost seems like a Minnesotan thing – it’s hard to say no, we feel like we need an excuse… but we don’t. It’s 100% ok to say no without justifying it, but why is that so hard? And you’re welcome! It’s really been a freeing experience. 🙂

    1. Laura VanZandt Post author

      Yes, Angela! I wouldn’t have thought going into it that it would make me think about these things, but I’m so glad it has.

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